I had two c-sections within two years. The first was an emergency and the second was planned, as a preventive measure. I hope my story prepares you and gives you perspective to plan your childbirth (better than I ever could)
Today marks 5years since my first daughter Aria came into my life. I was so broken and her love built me up. I had never cared for any human before her and taking care of her on the daily supplemented it. A daily reminder that serving others is the greatest form of love there is! . I always wondered what unconditional love looks, what does it feel like? People have always loved me at my best and always left me at my worst. Always. . So how can another human love me like Jesus? I am so flawed and imperfect, making mistakes, stumbling through life so is it ever possible for anybody to care and have unconditional love for me? It's this. It's all of this and so much more!. . I love you Aria, my boo. Thank you for giving me life❤️ #happybirthday . ✅ Please keep her in your prayers today, my darling needs protection, love, and guidance from above more than anything else today❤️
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My First C-section Story
I was determined to have a natural birth with Baby#1. We waited for my water to break naturally, going past my due date by two days. Whether I was too naive or overconfident I can't say now but I never bothered reading up about c-sections/caesareans.
40 weeks 2 days
7.30 am - 3 cm dilated: My water broke in small trickles of sweet water - yes I sniffed it. Well, I had to know whether babies marinate in smelly garlic water or not. I was relieved to know it was sweet; no wonder babies respond well to sweet nothings. In case you were wondering, breast milk is sweet too with rich buttery undertones. Yes, I tasted mine too.
11 am: Beginning of labor pains.
4 pm - 6 cm dilated: I hadn't eaten anything all day (and they don't give you anything in hospitals here in India) Even then, for some weird reason my labor pains were addictive; it came like a wave. Going high, taking you to the clouds and then slowing down to give you a quick break. Addictive!
After 5 hours I couldn't bear it and I asked for an epidural. Although it helped the labor pain gloriously, it slowed down the dilation process. So to hurry things up, they gave me Pitocin. (And to think I never wanted these things! I wanted a natural birth... )
7 pm -10cm dilated: I was ready now but the baby was nowhere near my cervix (the opening). The head was never “engaged” it was still floating!
The doctor asked me to push. Once. Just once! She asked me one time, and I said I was too exhausted from all that labor drama. I couldn't even breathe normally at this time. Maybe if she pushed me with more encouragement? Maybe if my mother said something encouraging? Maybe if everyone around me wasn't so nervous? I played this scene over and over in my head for years later. But nobody did, and I didn't push. I did not stand my ground.
7.30 pm - rushing to the emergency: With over 12 hours since my water breaking, there was a slight risk of the amniotic fluid running out they said. It would endanger the baby, they said.
So, we agreed on an emergency c-section.
I cried! To go through all that pain, all day, for this? I was so nervous there was involuntary shaking; I learned later this was a side-effect of the epidural.
They sent my husband to sign some “consent forms”, pay the surgery bills while I was wheeled into the operating room.
By the way, did I mention that Baby #1 was 2 days past her due date? That means she completed nearly 10 months in my womb and then some.
8.30pm: A healthy, +4kg/8.8lbs baby was out of me within 4 minutes, with a full head of hair too! Plus her umbilical cord was tightly wound around her neck they said. Knowing these facts I was so thankful to God for having an emergency c-section! God’s plans are always perfect! As for God, his way is perfect: The LORD's word is flawless; he shields all who take refuge in him. ~Psalm 18:30
We started breastfeeding within 45 minutes of surgery - OH YES! So what if I couldn't have the natural birth I planned and prayed for all these months, I wasn't going to give up on breastfeeding too! No sireey.
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My Second C-section Story
My second section was elective which means this event was planned and scheduled since my children were only 20 months apart. We picked a date, they picked a time. Ooo you have to know how I picked the date too! Stay tuned for that story later... meanwhile;
At 38 Weeks 4 days
As soon as the doctor dived into me in the operating room, she remarked, my last c-section scar had stretched super thin; so thin had we waited any longer there was a big chance of a uterine rupture!
God's timing and His guidance are always for the good. “For I know the plans I have for you,” declares the LORD, “plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future.” ~ Jeremiah 29:11
Since my second baby was born a few weeks before my due date, her birth weight was just 3kg/6.6lbs. Now, this size was a whole new experience for me since my first baby was not her size at all. We didn't even have newborn clothes that fit her!
Anyway, we started breastfeeding within 30 minutes of surgery. It was only colostrum the first day or so, but we went at it every 45 minutes. Breastfeeding is amazing because, within two months, she had doubled her weight, making her more "manageable" for me :) Yay!
My second c-section experience:
A better experience because of all the research done to prepare for it (unlike the dum dum I was the first time)
My planned second c-section wasn’t as traumatic as my first emergency c-section had been. I knew when it would happen so I was mentally and physically prepared for it.
The recovery time was shorter, so short I was discharged on Day 2!
When we got home...
I missed taking my painkillers on time the first week and kids, NEVER do that! I figured this is why they make you stay at the hospital for 4-5 days after the c-section surgery.
Take your painkillers on time!
My in-laws were there for a few days to help me after the second c-section. God bless them! However, soon after they left I started skipping meals, didn't exercise, and I lost one of my biggest freelance writing clients. (Yes I was a freelance writer before I became a curly hair blogger -more stories on that coming soon!)
I quickly fell into the postpartum depression trap. Do you know what postpartum depression feels like? It's not nice.
Remember, whatever you do, don't skip meals! Eat healthy, exercise, and focus on your doctrine to prevent or treat postpartum depression. More on this, yes coming soon!
2016, not yet following the #curlygirlmethod At my firstborn's birthday party, I was postpartum with my second child. Ahh how time goes by really fast! My biggest lesson as a curly girl now is to not wash my hair on the day of an event. WHAT IS YOURS?
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